Friendships.
Do not put too much thought or value into everyone you meet.
You will realize who your BEST friends are and why they are and you will
understand the importance of acquaintances.
Both have different importance and those who are your most dependable
“best” friends will understand you and just fit. Spend time and energy
strengthening those, and less time fighting with the acquaintances. You do not
have to fit into one group perfectly. Learn to find the good in each person. DO
NOT BURN BRIDGES!!!! Those ones you burned are the ones you WILL cross again…
Love.
You’re going to get your heartbroken. One does not hurt any
less than the other and each of them should teach you a valuable lesson for the
next. Never put the needs of another person before your own. In love, you are
most important and often we forget that fact. If you are busy fulfilling the
other persons needs or adjusting to them you WILL LOSE yourself and you will
regret it later. Understand what makes
your heart happy- looks aren’t everything.. For me, laughter and appreciation
are. Don’t fear rejection – it happens for a reason.
Don’t invest it all into that one person. Obviously if you
are in a serious relationship, this doesn’t mean go out and cheat on them-
rather, continue to focus on you and your needs. With cheating- it happens,
don’t take it personally. Those who cheat are no better or worse than you—they
just handle things differently. If a relationship isn’t enriching your life-
move along, don’t hold on to someone changing or even that YOU CAN change for him
or her. That’s your first sign that it isn’t right. If the same thing causes
the break up, then blame yourself but correct it. Don’t just dwell on the
“wrong” or the fault, because it will only make you weak and someone who
doesn’t love the most important one- themselves. Love you first, and then love
someone else. Until you find value in
yourself or accept YOURSELF you cannot ask someone else to value you or accept
you.
BE HAPPY WITH YOU.. What society tells us to do in love
isn’t the way it has to be.. no matter what it is you “are” be it, and be happy
with it!
Education.
Shit sucks, we all know it. But learning is so very
important and if you miss something YOU WILL BE HAUNTED BY IT FOREVER.
Have fun in high school, but don’t think you won’t need
every little bit of that later. High school is a must- however, it’s not about
graduating at the top of your class, being homecoming queen (or king) or star
athlete- rather, building the foundations you will need later in life. College
is expensive and less personal than high school was. Don’t be afraid to get
help with things you struggle with (Math, for instance). Get help then because
without the foundation and basics, you will be behind and have less time to
catch up and fewer opportunities for help.
Work with guidance counselors, college advisors, and
professors. Make a great first impression in college classes. Most teachers
aren’t JUST college teachers; today most run businesses on the outside or
guaranteed to know someone you will need when trying to find a job.
Dress like an “adult” be creative in class, and be involved.
Even if you aren’t interested in the topic, show you are enthusiastic to learn
something new.
Join groups… Do an internship.. Have a minor.. Learn a skill
(language maybe) that you never wanted to learn—and NETWORK, NETWORK, NETWORK!
Study ahead. Be prepared for what will be discussed in
class. Not only will you be a step ahead but you will be able to hold an
intelligent conversation with the professor and your peers as well as be less
stressed out for a test.. Catch up isn’t easy.. EVER! TURN OFF THE TV and social media… Read a lot,
increase your vocabulary, open your eyes to other ideas that maybe you don’t
believe in. Understand modern topics- politics, war, and government, anything
that you’d normally not “care” about—start caring. Again, you will be able to
have intelligent conversations with others.
Always be thinking of what next.. College is a short 4
years.. If you have a plan going in, be open to that changing.. Do not be
resistant to change- something good can come from it. Get a job in the area
that you think you want to work later- and fit in.. Fitting In has never been
for me, but it’s necessary. Get along with others no matter what; learn
conflict resolution in a friendly, professional way so that you don’t leave a
negative impact on business leaders. Having a job where you want to be after
college is important so that you are well known and more competitive than just
a 4-year degree.
The job search is tough.. the degree isn’t the difficult
part. Everything you did leading up to graduation is. Companies want to know
you can make friends, fit in, and bring intelligence and PASSION to THEIR
organization. It’s not about your GPA or the title of your degree.. Build
strong relationships along the way and do things that will relate to what you
want to be “when you grow up.”
Personal/Random
Have hobbies… Learn what you like so that you can be really
great at ONE thing. There is nothing
wrong with being good at several things but there is something wrong with not
really having any type of “hobby” or “Skill” that you can continue getting
awesome at as you get older. It will also help you in times when you need a
break from everyday life or when you are building adult friendships.
Smile AND RELAX- take time to see the good you do have,
rather than the bad you don’t or the bad that hasn’t happened yet.
Not every single
situation or circumstance will end the same, so stop thinking that at the
start.
Do something bigger than you or bigger than most. Whether
the military, volunteer opportunities, or perfecting a skill that most would be
“afraid” of. You will have a greater sense of happiness doing something outside
of your norm.
Work hard to get each thing you do have, it’s much more
satisfying to have something that you worked for rather than something that was
handed to you.
Talk to strangers- often they have thoughts, ideas, or
connections that will help you grow along the way.
NEVER EVER give up.. The end of one thing or the “plan” that
failed- isn’t the end of everything.
Don’t be afraid to think AND STEP outside of the box..
Never invest too much into one person or thing.
Go to therapy, help friends and strangers when they are
down--- you never know when you are pulling or pushing someone down from a
ledge.
Put 100% into you and your life. Love those who love you and
forgive those who cause you pain…
Carry an umbrella, back up shoes, and extra clothes
always..Expect the unexpected. Don’t
fall into bad habits—they may seem OK or cool at the time but they are
difficult to get away from..
Love your body- you are in control of changing that with
exercise..
Limit how much you
are willing to tell someone over a text message or email- actually spend time
face to face and talking.
Don’t talk about other people, and don’t wish ill on anyone.
Karma may not be “real” but doing those things will only cause YOU stress in
the end.. Don’t be jealous- you probably have stuff that person wants too.
Love your flaws and your MIND .. express your thoughts and
learn to work with the “you” you’ve been given…The things you say “will go away
when you’re grown up” WON’T..
Learn that you can learn by talking but – it’s smart to sit
back with your mouth shut and eyes and ears open… You’d be surprised how much
you miss when you are trying to prove your point or show “you know it all..”
Limit the negativity within your OWN mind. Turn the worst
situations into lessons learned
……and for the love of god- learn how to count to 10 before
you speak.. QUICK emotional responses WILL stay with you forever.
